I was reading an article on “le point”. No I don’t have a link for that. I read it on paper. Yeah, p-a-p-e-r. I couldn’t tag it or save it on my social bookmarking websites to share it with friends. On internet, the meaning of “friends” is kind of fuzzy. It just means that you have a mutual (sometimes unidirectional) relationship that enables you some access rights to their profile.
You can see what they’ve done or you can recommend specific actions.
On digg for example, I never had any kind of relationship or common point with my “friends”, they just accepted a random “be my friend request”, and receive my “shouts”, when I want to say something to my community. Mostly when I request people to vote for what I submitted.
On facebook, we have, most of the times, real-life friends. On linkedin, there are more business relationships.
Looking at my social graph (showing how my network is interconnected),
It is always strange to see how your acquaintances are linked together creating different universes that you connect. I have high school friends, work friends, kung fu friends…
Okay, back to that “le point” article. It was describing the process people were experiencing after suscribing to facebook. It was mostly like…
1) “I can’t believe this guy is also on facebook, what a nerd!”
2) “Wow, time has been nice to her. Let’s add her to friends”
3) “People will think I suck if I don’t get more friends”
4) “Let’s compare our penis length with the Mine is bigger than yours app“
5) “Whoa I got 500 friends… and this one just got married! Who is he by the way?”
And during all that time you were on facebook at least hour per day on average and increasing, following other people’s lives. You feel weird when your ex-girlfriend picture gets tagged and you see that she’s with a new boyfriend (who’s actually a friend of a friend).
You just wander on the web of profiles hoping that you’ll see another face you can add to your friends. You meet people and immediately ask them if they have a facebook profile. People find you boring.
One day, your inbox is full of advertizing.
You open your friends’list, and you just have a strange feeling when you realize that there is noone there you know.